30 Questions About Your Ex Survey Response by Peaches8794

First of all, what's is your ex's name?
Alan

How long did you know them before you started dating?
3 months

Who showed interest first?
I think he did....

What attracted you to them?
He was funny, adorable, sexy & very charming.

What did you dislike about them?
He confused me, he never considered my feelings, made me feel like my feelings & beliefs were invalid, childish & stupid.

How long did your relationship last?
It’s been off & on for 6 years....there was a 2 year hiatus where he left me for the mental chick he worked with that I had a problem with since the very beginning of our relationship. Used “I don’t have very many friends” as an excuse.

If you don't mind me asking: why did you break-up?
His answer to that years later was because he was “stuck in his head” & was extremely messed up after being in the army, then he changed his story saying it was because we could never be alone & he felt like a loser because he lived with his mother. Lol.

How old was your ex?
He was 23 when we first got together, I was only 17, so of course we weren’t allowed to be alone together. I was still a kid. He was my first love.

What was the age difference, if there was one?
6 years, 6 months.

Are you over them?
No & I don’t know if I ever will be. I wish I was.

Would you still like to be with them?
....not like this, no.

When you see him/her, do you become sad, frustrated, or regretful?
Yes, definitely.

Are you still friends or still communicate with them in any way?
Yes.

If you say him/her with someone new or saw them showing interest in another person, how would you feel and react?
I mean it wouldn’t feel good, but if they were to move on, then I might as well go the same route.

If they showed affection toward you again, what would you do?
Probably give in to it & cry later, as per usual.

If they came back to you or asked to be with you once more, would you give them another chance?
Not like this....he would have a ton of work to do on himself before I would ever consider something like that.

Have you ever tried to get back with them?
When we first got together, he randomly dumped me like 150x when I thought everything was going well & to make it worse he always texted it to me or broke up with me over Facebook & then we would end up getting back together.

Do you believe you were starting to or did fall in love with them?
I was in love with him from the moment I first laid eyes on him. My mom even remembers seeing me looking over at him, seeing him for the first time. Apparently my eyes lit up & she thought “oh no, she’s gonna text him later or something”....she said he looked like a very “troubled” person as soon as she saw him & was worried from that moment on.

Have you tried to tell them how you feel/felt?
Desperately, but as always, to no avail.

Do you find yourself yearning for them?
....usually....as you would with any addiction. Abusive relationships suck.

Do you ever regret being with them?
Yes & no.

Who asked whom out?
I probably asked him out first, more than once, but when we got together, he asked me out. November 9th, 2011....that was the first day we kissed.

Do you still like/love them?
A part of me will always love him. But I don’t like him, at all.

Are you still single or have you found someone new?
I’m remaining single....I will never trust another man.

Do you ever fantasize about what it would be like to still be with them?
No....I know that if I had stayed with him, I would have ended up dead or in prison. So no I don’t want to get back together with him. It’s just not safe to. I don’t trust him.

Do you ever dream about them? daydream?
Probably a lot.

Personal question: did you guys get physically intimate in any way?
In like every possible way imaginable.

I love horoscopes; so, do you ever find yourself checking their horoscopes?
Don’t believe in such crap, I’m a Christian.

Do you believe you are truly over them?
No, but I think I’m starting to mourn our relationship. That’s part of the recovery process.

Have you put an honest effort in trying to get over them?
I’m trying to now, but it’s the hardest thing in the world.

Have you tried to get back with them?
No.

I've, personally, put an effort to get back with my ex because i love him. if you feel like there could be something more there, get off your ass and go get them back!
Not worth it.

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